Wednesday, January 20, 2021

Inauguration Day

A Tale of Three Wednesdays

Wed 1/6/21 - Attack on the US Capitol
Wed 1/13/21 - Impeachment of President Trump
Wed 1/20/21 - Inauguration of President Biden

Wow! The Capitol building has seen a lot over the last 15 days! I will leave it to the pundits to share perspectives on the politics of our country right now. But I do want to take a moment to reflect on the concept of a peaceful transfer of power. We take so many things for granted in life and in America. But there are places in the world where not everyone has the right to vote, where rulers maintain control for decades, and where dissent, disagreement, and protest are crimes. For all our challenges and divides, we should remember that what makes America great is that everyone is entitled to their own opinion and perspective. [What we are not entitled to is violence and anarchy]. We educate ourselves about the issues and the candidates, we vote at the ballot box, and then we hope for the best for whoever wins the election. It is not about any person or party. It is about the American People. It is about the American Democracy. 

Every four years, when we get to Inauguration Day, it always gets me. The pomp and circumstance, the songs, and flags, the traditions and ceremonies. It always feels hopeful, like Opening Day of the baseball season, even if the person in office is not the one for whom I voted. Because the very act of inaugurating a President signifies that the Union is still strong, that Democracy is still alive and well.  As the confetti is swept away and we get back to the daily business of trying to keep America strong and safe, I wonder how long this inspiration and feeling of unity and hope will last. Will we descend right back to division, cynicism, opposition, and mistrust? Or will we debate the issues, try to understand each other's perspectives, fears, and hopes, and then work together to help people? We have all heard politicians from both sides say things like "these are not Red states and Blue states, these are the United States." But I feel like so many of them, on both sides, are so worried about fundraising and reelection that they often lack the courage to vote for their convictions. And so many of us, average Americans, fall too easily into an Us vs. Them mentality where compromise,  cooperation, and unity are not the goals; winning is. I know not everyone feels inspired on Inauguration Day. There are elections where our candidate wins and others where they lose. And it can feel disappointing or scary if our view does not prevail. But somehow I always feel it on Inauguration Day, no matter who wins, because I believe in American at its best; not its worst.

It will take time and hard work to start to heal this country right now. We need to heal from the Pandemic. We need to heal from the Political and Social Justice  unrest. We need to heal our economy. But I choose Hope over Despair. I choose Unity over Division. I choose Pulling closer over Pushing away. May Hashem watch over this country and guide its leaders to make wise decisions that will bring healing, unity, and prosperity to all. May we appreciate this great Democracy and never take it for granted. May we seek to listen and understand rather than argue and convince. And may we remember that we are all Americans.

Tuesday, January 12, 2021

Happy Anniversary

Dear Kids (This blog is really for my kids to read when they are older),

I know that you know this already but I want to tell you again how much I love your Ima. Today is our 23rd wedding anniversary! We met when I was 3 and Ima was 1 (no photos to prove it!) thanks to our parents meeting and becoming friends in Eretz Yisrael. And we reconnected 16 years later when I stopped in London and stayed with the Shaffers on the way back from Yeshiva. Your Savta suggested that Ima skip school that day to accompany me on my double decker tour of London. We didn't know each other and felt kind of awkward, but off we went exploring The Tower of London, Trafalgar Square, and Big Ben. We quickly clicked and I told someone back home that summer that I was going to marry that girl one day. We were so lucky to find each other, a girl from London and a boy from Boston, and it has been the best thing that has ever happened to me.

You see, your Ima is not only the best Ima in the world, an amazing educator, a friend to so many, and someone who is always Osek B'tzarchei Tzibbur B'Emunah. She is that and so much more. But for me she always has been and always will be my best friend. Ima is kind, humble, creative, supportive, strong, giving, and much much more. When no one else believes in you, or when you doubt yourself, she is there to remind you how special you are. She always puts others first and makes everyone she speaks to feel like they are exactly who she wanted to be speaking with at that moment (it's not an act - she really does!)

God knows we have been through a lot in our 23 years of marriage. But through it all I have been so blessed to have your Ima at my side. I thank Hashem for this unbelievable gift every single day. I wish for you guys not only to realize what an incredible, loving Ima you have, and to try to be as much like her as you can, but also to one day find someone to share your life journey with who will love you and be there for you like Ima is for me. If you do you will have the most incredible journey of love and friendship.

Happy Anniversary Elisheva! Here's to many more, B'Ezrat Hashem, happy and healthy years to come...

וַיִּקַּ֨ח אַהֲרֹ֜ן אֶת־אֱלִישֶׁ֧בַע בַּת־עַמִּינָדָ֛ב אֲח֥וֹת נַחְשׁ֖וֹן ל֣וֹ לְאִשָּׁ֑ה
(Shemot 6:23)